It has been said that if a woman has tattoos or piercings, she is broken, or damaged. The amount of outrage over this conversation is comical, and it proves the points being made by the men who are writing about it. Normal, well adjusted, and mentally stable women with piercings and tattoos could care less what some random guys on the internet say about how they adorn their bodies; they know it’s just nonsense written by petulant man child types who for whatever reason seem to have an obsessive need to put women down.
Let them have their fun. At least they aren’t going out and shooting up schools, or committing “work place violence” by gunning down ex-co workers (yet).
If we are to view women with tattoos and piercings as mentally ill, or broken, what signs do we have that a man is off his rocker? Therein lies the rub. There may not be any obvious physical signaling indicating that a man is broken. We may not know just how psychologically damaged they are until it’s too late.
Men are more than twice as likely to have substance abuse problems than women. Couple that with the fact they are more than three times as likely to have Antisocial Personality Disorder than women, and Houston, we’ve got a problem!
“Men are more likely than women to drink excessively. Excessive drinking is associated with significant increases in short-term risks to health and safety, and the risk increases as the amount of drinking increases. Men are also more likely than women to take other risks (e.g., drive fast or without a safety belt), when combined with excessive drinking, further increasing their risk of injury or death.”
Injuries and deaths as a result of excessive alcohol use
- Men consistently have higher rates of alcohol-related deaths and hospitalizations than women.
- Among drivers in fatal motor-vehicle traffic crashes, men are almost twice as likely as women to have been intoxicated (i.e., a blood alcohol concentration of 0.08% or greater).
- Excessive alcohol consumption increases aggression and, as a result, can increase the risk of physically assaulting another person.
- Men are more likely than women to commit suicide, and more likely to have been drinking prior to committing suicide.”
If a man demonstrates regular and heavy drinking, he will be more likely to partake in risky behaviors, become more aggressive, and become so psychologically damaged that they kill themselves.
Lesson: Stay away from men who drink, because men who drink are damaged to the point they may become violent or at the very least engage in behaviors that will put themselves or you in danger. Alcohol consumption can be considered a man’s “tattoo” in that it is one sign that will signal whether or not a man is likely to be broken. How much he drinks is the scale by which we can measure the depth of his damage.
Antisocial Personality Disorder:
As already stated, men are more than three times as likely to have ASPD. This disorder is described as:
“There is a pervasive pattern of disregard for and violation of the rights of others occurring since age 15 years, as indicated by three or more of the following:
- failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest;
- deception, as indicated by repeatedly lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure;
- impulsivity or failure to plan ahead;
- irritability and aggressiveness, as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults;
reckless disregard for safety of self or others;
- consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations;
- lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another;
Theodore Millon, an American psychologist known for his work on personality disorders, offers the following subtypes:
|Nomadic (including schizoid and avoidant features)||Feels jinxed, ill-fated, doomed, and cast aside; peripheral, drifters; gypsy-like roamers, vagrants; dropouts and misfits; itinerant vagabonds, tramps, wanderers; impulsively not benign.|
|Malevolent (including sadistic and paranoid features)||Belligerent, mordant, rancorous, vicious, malignant, brutal, resentful; anticipates betrayal and punishment; desires revenge; truculent, callous, fearless; guiltless.|
|Covetous (variant of “pure” pattern)||Feels intentionally denied and deprived; rapacious, begrudging, discontentedly yearning; envious, seeks retribution, and avariciously greedy; pleasure more in taking than in having.|
|Risk-taking (including histrionic features)||Dauntless, venturesome, intrepid, bold, audacious, daring; reckless, foolhardy, impulsive, heedless; unbalanced by hazard; pursues perilous ventures.|
|Reputation-defending (including narcissistic features)||Needs to be thought of as infallible, unbreakable, invincible, indomitable, formidable, inviolable; intransigent when status is questioned; over-reactive to slights.|
Do any of those sound familiar?
Take for instance the quote that TUF dredged up by someone making a comment on a PUA website:
“…with the women I date, I’m a complete f***ing loser. I don’t respect them. I don’t care about their opinions, their hopes, or their dreams. I run my dating life in the same way I would run a business, and like any good business, I have a slogan: “When women have problems, I don’t have solutions.” Women nowadays don’t deserve a winner, therefore, they don’t get one…”
I would say this falls under the “Malevolent” ASPD subtype quite nicely. I’m sure you could find other quotes that fall under one or more, or all of the subtypes listed above. When you view the kinds of men who write such things about women, and they do to a great extent on the internet, it becomes clear that the kinds of men who write for and participate in pick up artistry websites are more than likely afflicted with antisocial personality disorder.
Another factor that plays into the problems associated with ASPD, is testosterone. Since “aggressiveness and impulsivity” are two symptoms found in people with ASPD, testosterone – a hormone that controls aggressiveness in men, increases the likelihood that men who have ASPD will not only be broken men, but potentially very dangerous.
This is not to say that women aren’t diagnosed with ASPD. They are, but to a much lesser extent. One of the differences between men and women who have this disorder, is that women are more likely to seek treatment, whereas men are not. And, if men do get treatment for it, like during the time they are incarcerated for committing a violent crime, they are less likely to respond well long term. Men with ASPD still demonstrated interpersonal problems many years later even after receiving treatment.
If you examine, even topically, the writings by PUAs and their visitors, you will see that the characteristics they attempt to instill in men so that they can become the almighty “Alpha Male”, in hopes of banging women, are actually traits commonly found in men with antisocial personality disorder. Instead of trying to help men who more than likely need psychological care, they are encouraging them to continue behaviors which will put themselves and others in danger. They reinforce psychopathy in men by holding in high esteem those who boast of having the very characteristics that are the personification of a disorder that can eventually cause a man to be so broken that he becomes destructive to himself, or others.
So although there may not be any exterior markings which can warn us that a man is broken, a woman can protect herself from men like this by taking the time to examine whether or not they demonstrate any of the symptoms of ASPD listed here:
“a pattern of inappropriate and unmodulated desire to control others, implemented in a detached manner. There is a strong need to be independent, to resist being controlled by others, who are usually held in contempt. There is a willingness to use untamed aggression to back up the need for control or independence. The [antisocial personality] usually presents in a friendly, sociable manner, but that friendliness is always accompanied by a baseline position of detachment. He or she doesn’t care what happens to self or others.”
Can any of you think of anyone who fits this description? I can. In closing, please be careful ladies of who you choose as your mate. Resist being drawn to a man who uses manipulation to entice you, and then behaves in a detached manner. This is precisely what pick up artistry teaches. Stay frosty girls.